I think the biggest challenge in having a FemDom relationship is keeping it that way. If she isn't having fun and loving what she is doing most likely the focus has gone back to his needs/ wants instead of theirs (as a couple).
Men want to meet Dommes, real women who enjoy Dominating men. However, men don’t seem to understand that we are real women, people too. We have interests, thoughts and lives that have nothing to do with tying men up, teasing and tormenting them. (As much fun as all that is).
I’m writing this blog for myself mainly. I used to write a weekly column called Bait & Switch for Adult BackWash. (BackWash is closed now). I would write about sex, kinky stuff, online dating, romance, passion and sensuality. I also wrote about my views as a woman who likes treating men as my own personal sex toy. I wrote for a few other sites, some curated content too, but none of those are still active links. I get to the point where I get tired of it and write to please others, not so much myself. It stops being fun, or interesting.
Don’t think that I’m some experienced professional, cause I’m not. I never have been. I’m a woman you could meet any day and pass without suspecting I was anything but someone’s sister/ daughter/ aunt. Just think about that… how do you know you didn’t see me today? I’m a nice girl, a romantic. I tend to be quiet and polite and I’m thinking a lot behind my glasses. I’m the woman your Mother would like you to bring home.
Isn’t that ironic?
I like teasing men while they can’t do much about it. I like the idea of keeping a man in a cage or tied hand and foot to the frame of the doorway, or told to wear a bib in the restaurant. I like having a man who does it all, not because he has to, not because he could not escape the bondage or just say No, but because he wants to. I like a man who is strong, independent, intelligent and submissive (but only to me). I’m not into sharing quite that much.
I like a home made brand of D/s. Where instead of spending money on toys from a catalogue I am creative and use my own ideas and imagination. I really like having something ordinary become extraordinary fun in a kinky way. It gives you a whole new outlook each time you open a drawer in the kitchen, especially that junk drawer with all the odds and ends.
I also like writing fiction, Femdom fiction. I’ve won 2nd place in an erotica writing contest run (in part) by Gloria Brame but that was many years ago. Still, it was quite an honour to me at the time. I've been published in The Dominant's View (now gone) at least twice. I was there in the very early days of Clean Sheets (gone too) but I didn't stick with it. I have this problem with being a social misfit/ loner and not giving myself enough credit for the things I can do. Luckily, I don't mind being alone, I keep myself amused.
I've had profiles on social BDSM sites. I'm not looking to meet anyone, not at all interested in anything casual for sure. Sometimes adult fiction still makes money. Sometimes I still get ideas to write an erotic story about. So, post may appear here yet again.
