Female Sexual Arousal Disorder

Female Sexual Arousal Disorder - is it real or is it just a bunch of horny men who want to make women want more sex?

Very Girlie in Pink

Makes me think of pink bubblegum.

I confess... I have a mild addiction to window shopping at sex toy sites. I mostly look at vibrators and dildos. I like to see which ones really, really, really tempt me. Today I liked this one, from Eden Fantasys. It also comes in purple, if you prefer a more royal colour than pretty pink.

What do you look for in a dildo/ vibrator? One thing I usually avoid are anything that needs batteries. I don't have much luck with vibrators really. They are either too hard and unbending or they just move all the wrong ways at the wrong time. That's why I look at dildos more often. I had thought vibrators are for women and dildos were for anal sex. So I never used to look at them very much. Later, as I read more, like the information Eden Fantasys has for shoppers/ buyers, I understood a dildo was something that didn't use a battery.

I do like ridges, ribs, something to give the dildo texture. I've heard some women have little interest in penetration. I'm not that way. I like the feeling of being entered. I also like being touched a lot in all the right places - and I don't mean the pussy. It's so much better if you spend time on other areas first, letting it all build up.

I don't know how the skin of the pink bendie dildo will feel on my skin. But, I'm interested in reading about the tip of it, that's where it has the vibrations. I'd like to explore the sensation of slipping it over my nipples, the tender skin of my thighs and then my clit. Last of all I'd slip it inside of myself, very slowly.

See how nice it is to window shop, secretly, in the privacy of your own bedroom?

Thanks to Eden Fantasys for the fantasy tonight.

Me and My Magical Little Clit Button

Originally posted to Adult BackWash: Wednesday September 17, 2003  

His hands were like manacles, grabbing at her, pulling her back towards his muscular manly chest. In her ear he whispered, "Isn't this the start of a cheesy romance?"

Yes, it could be. But, I've saved you! Don't you feel pleased if not pleasured?

Why did I even write the above, is there any point to it? Not especially. I was just thinking of men's bodies and the parts I like best. The different things men can do with those parts and how I'd like them to do them.


Back to reality, out of the cheesy romance mode. *Sigh* What a waste of a perfectly good cheesy romance type fantasy.

Are you really still here? Maybe you're just curious to know what men's body parts I was thinking of?

Hands, chests, arms (lower and upper) mainly. I've recently realized I prefer chests that aren't too hairy. I always thought I had no preference and then some guy came into the store without a shirt and I got all turned on by his nice smooth chest. I took a mental picture to play around with later. No, later, not right now.

I love a deep, manly voice. I'm sure I've typed that in here at least once before. (It's almost like ordering from a catalogue). Dark hair, maybe blonde if it's not that silly fake looking blonde. Well, OK, I guess I'd even give a redhead a second glance or three. So, hair colour doesn't seem all that important. Of course, it's nice if he has some hair but I can get over that if I like the rest of him.

If I wasn't so tired tonight I'd probably be getting more into this and back to the cheesy romance.

Well, I can always get back to that. I just have to post something here and go to bed. All by myself, just me and my magical little clit button.

Are Men's Bodies Ugly?

Men's bodies are sexy. If women didn't find men's bodies sexy we would all be with women or robots or just remain single and celibate.

I was asked how I know I'm straight. The first thing that came to mind was that when I imagine someone's hands on me I see a man's hands - big, strong hands, no nail polish. I like the way men's bodies look. I like the whiskers on their face when they skip shaving. I like the line down their back leading down to their butt. I like their chest, especially if they've got some muscles to show off. Muscles are sexy. Tall men are sexier cause I like a man who makes me feel feminine. 

Women's bodies get promoted/ used to sell cars, beer, clothes, etc. So women are seen as sexy because our bodies can sell cars to men. Watching these ads I don't think they are selling products as much as they are peddling sex and selling women's bodies as something sexual. That doesn't mean men are not sexy. It just means the advertisers are still mainly selling to men rather than considering women, couples and families as their target market.

Also, because female nudity is more common people do feel more shocked and intimidated about male nudity. We are accustomed to female bodies both fully nude or mostly revealed. It's silly to me how often a woman's breasts are shown and how they won't even show a male butt, that is somehow more perverted. I have always found that really annoying. Not as discrimination but for how it makes women's bodies seem a sexual tool versus someone who is a real person, a wife, a Mother. There is a respect for male nudity which isn't there for female nudity. 

Just as breastfeeding is far too shocking to be done in public (according to some) male nudity is seen as unnatural. Why is the natural purpose for breasts shocking and yet they can be shown fully nude as a sexual thing in movies and advertising? Why don't we see a male butt exposed in any ads in magazines, on billboards and websites? Why are the erotic photos of men usually geared to gay men, not women? 

Men's bodies are not ugly, but they are still covered up.  Look at the way young men and women dress. The men wear long shorts down to their knees and shirts which cover them just as well. Meanwhile the woman they are with is likely wearing far less. Why? Are men the new nuns? Are we ashamed of the male body? 

It's not that I want to see more male nudity. I just would like to see less female nudity. Both men and women should have a respect for their bodies and neither should be used to sell products. I do find the male body attractive but that has it's place. I'd be less likely to buy a car which was sold in an ad where men are leaning over it half dressed. I'd wonder what they were doing and think they should have focused on the features of the car rather than the hunky guy that doesn't come with it.

Big Boobs

Originally posted to Adult BackWash: Monday April 28, 2003  

Want to turn me on? Worship my boobs. You must like big boobs, mine will never fit into a champagne glass. They're pretty bouncy for the size and age they are too. Breasts, for those that don't like the word boobs. Sometimes breasts are boobs and other times they are breasts. Tonight is a boobs kind of night.

My nipples are large but not huge. I've seen some really huge, kind of gross looking, nipples on porn sites. But, I wonder if they are false, like the monster cocks. Oh come on! Don't make me laugh!! I think they substitute a horse's cock in those pictures. It wouldn't be all that hard to do. Does that make it beastiality?


Oddly, my nipples don't perk up even when I'm aroused. I think they're very laid back. They only come to attention when given the proper respect/ worship. If you come out to play so will they. Very contrary of them. But, I completely understand.

Anyway, for the rest of the boobage. Mine are a double D. They get in the way but I adapt. I've never been jealous of small boobs but I can see how it would make life easier. Much easier to find a bra too. My favourite bra is a black sports bra cause my boobs fit right in and stay there, no matter what I do during the day. Trust me, big boobs need a reliable bra.

There are times when having big boobs is embarrassing. You can never really tuck them away and become inconspicuous. My boobs always arrive before I do. If I try to turn around and enter backwards my butt sticks out enough to be a second pair of boobs. So that plan is thrwarted.

A lot of men like big boobs. It's interesting. What do they like about them really? Is it how obvious they are? You can hardly ignore them, it's easy to spot big boobs in a crowd. But, men only seem to look at them as sex toys.

Or, do men really like big boobs as some sort of icky Mother fetish. Is it me they want to suck on or Mommy Dearest? Do they simply miss breastfeedings? Don't look at me, it's not my fetish!

In conclusion, I've yet to find a really good use for big boobs outside of sexual worshipping. They could be a good paperweight if they didn't leave the desk each time I do. They do give all the bra makers something to work on. Don't tell the bra makers that I'm going braless as I type this and I sleep that way too. Why spoil it for them?

Big Boobs

Slim women just look odd with huge boobs, at least when they get so big they seem more like udders. 


My friend has natural huge boobs and needs to get them reduced cause the muscle is pulling away from her body and causing a lot of pain. She also had a cancer scare. It's too bad men can't carry around some of the burden for these things they just think of as sex toys.


If men had boobs there would be better sports bras and they would have been invented much sooner in time. 


If men had boobs breast feeding would be a sport. They'd have milk spurting contests, milk production contests and send photos of their breasts leaking milk instead of the penis photos they send now.


If men had boobs they'd measure nipple extension and we would have all kinds of products for making your nipples harder, longer. 


If men had boobs they'd be adjusting their underwear and their bra all the time. 

Boudoir Photography

I read an ad for a photographer offering a discount if you arrange a boudoir photo session next week. I guess they are hoping for quantity. I'd like to go but I'm already busy. Besides I'd need more time to think about what I want to wear, shave areas I don't always care to shave, that sort of thing. But, it would be fun to take some sensual, sexy photos with a professional some time. Doing it yourself is fun but can't compare to someone who knows how to use lighting and posing to your advantage.

Perfect Boobs

Originally posted to Adult BackWash: Wednesday May 05, 2004  

I didn't know I have perfect boobs. Now that I know, I'm seriously impressed with myself. I never thought those two roundish lumps could be considered perfect. I've always had a fondness for them. I could even go so far as to say I'm... proud of them. They're not bad as, two roundish lumps stuck to the front of my body, go.

But, to hear they are perfect. Well, that kind of blows my mind. Perfect! Perfect covers a lot of ground.


Perfect is in the eye of the beholder and the hands of the beholder too for that matter. So if he thinks I have perfect boobs, more power to me. More of other things to him but we'll get to that later, much later. Probably long after your bedtime.

So, now I'm sitting pretty. Perfect boobs protruding just a bit more than usual.

It is kind of odd being a woman, having two appendages sticking out in front of you. Can't ignore them. Kind of rude looking I sometimes think. As a high school girl I would just give in to the inevitable and rest my boobs on the desk. It hit at just that level. What else could you do? No one could sit that straight in those hard ass chairs all day. So, boobs ended up sitting on my desk. Maybe that is the secret of my perfect boobs, allowing them their place in the halls of learning.

I also think it's good that I don't always restrain them into boob traps, boulder holders, bras, etc. Let them have a little freedom to bob, bounce and sway. Boobs like to get out a bit, see the world and have some fun. Grrls just want to have fun! All the girls. I think it's cute how some women call them "the girls". I don't do it myself. Maybe it's just that bit too cute for me.

Anyway, me and my perfect boobs are about to hit the shower and get to bed tonight. Boobs are easy to wash. Just soap them up, rub around the nipples, under and around the breast and rinse. Other areas are more complicated, involve more steps and less modesty.

Good night. Sweaty dreams.

If Men had Boobs

Originally posted to Adult BackWash: Monday September 06, 2004  

Men get off lightly on the body maintenance thing. I sometimes think they should pay us rent for all the oogling, touching and sex stuff. We are the ones who maintain the hair, face, skin, body that they desire. They don't have nearly as much work to their own bodies, shave, wash and that's about it. It's not fair.

I tried to ease up on the whole thing. My exhusband didn't like my unshaved legs. I was ok about them. They still worked for all the regular stuff of life. I could still wash dishes, do laundry and that other stuff. I just skipped that extra 15 minutes of scraping my skin off. Nair is better but it seems to miss spots and the hair grows back far too soon. Plus, if you leave it on too long you get weird marks on your skin.


Not every body part requires that kind of work. Breasts just pretty much keep to themselves. Put on the boulder holder in the morning and they're ok for another day. The problem is when we actually look at them. The magazines tell us how much we sag after 25, 30... 40 (shudder). We are told how unattractive our boobs are once they lose the teenaged perkiness. We don't live in bubbles, some of us have saggy boobs with stretch marks and less than perfect shape and peaches and cream skin is something we think we can still remember.

What if men had boobs. Suddenly, they're faced with the business end of boobs rather than the sex toy side. It's their turn to cope with breastfeeding, breast cancer and bra shopping. I bet that would change their outlook. Let's see them walk around (jog?) with those massive DD cups they lust over. It's different when you're attached to them. Much simpler to just admire them on someone else.

True, the cosmetics, beauty and fashion industry is catching on. Realizing men have been coasting along on aftershave and soap for far too long. But, you can see a huge difference in the beauty aisle geared to women and the small shelf space in the toothpaste aisle set aside for men's beauty treatments.

I think men should take more care with their appearance. After all, we have to look at them. If they want us to stay looking they better do something about it. Of course, some of them look just fine to me.

Feet and Inches in the Shower

Originally posted to Adult BackWash: Monday July 19, 2004  

Is it just coincidence that I tend to think of ideas for this column while I'm in the shower?

During tonight's shower I came up with a theory of sorts, something to explain men's preoccupation with their cock size. Yes, one of the things that women have wondered about for ages. Now, I understand. It all makes sense once you consider their need to know numbers when it comes to a woman's body too.


How many times have you been asked for your measurements, your bust size, your weight, height and so on, right down to the length of your hair. Yet, have you ever heard of a woman asking a man for his measurements? Not me. Why is this?

I have a theory about that too. (It was a long, hot, steamy shower).

Men understand what those numbers mean in relation to a woman's body. Women on the other hand, have no idea. Not that we are ignorant, hardly! But, a man can be tall and weigh 200+ pounds and what does that really mean. Is he muscular or chubby? Men's weight gives no clue to their physical build. So what is the point of trying to figure out the numbers. None!

If you tell a man you prefer a 6. Does he assume you are talking about feet or inches? That was something else I thought about while soaping up my various curvy parts. I like a 6, a six footer. What do the inches matter, who sees those anyway?! No, much more impressive to have a 6 footer on your arm. Everyone can see a nice tall man. No one will ask him to open his pants and show his inches.

I think that works in reverse too. Men like women with big boobs cause they show. Other men can see those DD cups and drool over them, but not touch. Other men can penis envy him so he can strut around like a proud cock and it doesn't matter about his actual cock. Hope you are still on the same page here. By this time the mirror was pretty fogged up and I couldn't even see myself to think.

I think it's one of my best theories yet. But, who knows what will come up in tomorrow's shower.

Orgasms

Originally posted to Adult BackWash: Wednesday October 29, 2003  

The best part of my orgasm is the length of time I can hold onto it right after it starts. At first there is the build up, sometimes it builds slowly. Then that moment when time stops, that little death. It does seem you could die at that moment and not even know it. Then my orgasm starts, the juices flow and the muscles of my vagina contract over and over and over. I'm not sure if that's what they call a multi orgasm. The best part is how long I can keep it going before my fingers get tired or I just can't take any more without becoming vocal. I've spent too much time living with other people to let myself be loud.


My standard method is clit fingering these days. I'm an expert on my own clit and how to touch it just right. I don't get finicky and try different fingering. The same old rubs, strokes and touches work just fine. At some point I don't know exactly how I'm doing it just that I don't want to stop.

The clit stroking is nice too. Even though it's not the main event I do enjoy the build up, that feeling of getting wetter and tighter. Once in a while it's not enough and I want something inside my vagina. That's just the odd time and I often wonder if it's linked to my menstrual cycle in some way. We do get typical skin break outs, cravings, tender breasts and such just before it starts. Likely we can be different in our arousal too.

Do men have real orgasms? Or is it more of a sperm release than a whole body experience? I know men traditionally fall asleep after sex. I do too. Unless I'm too tired to stay awake I have an orgasm every night when I go to bed. I always thought most women did the same. It's a great way to fall asleep, doesn't cost a thing and is good for your body and mind.

Breastfeeding Fetish

Possibly it's because I love being touched, especially my back and breasts, but I have an interest in lactation as a fetish. I don't know if I would really want to do this. Sounds like a lot of work before there are any results. A lot of work to keep it flowing and a lot of work if you have to lactate every few hours.  That would especially make it into a chore or a duty, which isn't something I'd enjoy being stuck with on a regular basis.

Also, I don't think I could feel the same about a guy who sucked my breasts like an infant. In reality I don't see a male submissive as a child or lesser being that I need to guide through life and whatever else. I want someone who is on par with myself. He just likes to do what I tell him and get stuck in the odd cage now and then.

But, here for the interest, are some breastfeeding fetish links.

Fetlife: Dommes Who Nurse their subs
Fetlife: Lactation Lovers
Fetlife: Breast Feeding for Adults and Milky Kinksters
Fetlife: For Men and Women who Enjoy Lactating Lovers
Fetlife: Make milk for Daddy

A Link about Clitoris Play

Female Clitoral Stimulation Techniques  - Ideas and inspiration.

The don't page is disappointing. Sure the information is ok but it misses something important. Don't try to squish the clit back in on itself. At least I think that is what he was doing. Can't really see much when his hands or face are down there. Whatever it was, the pain blocked out all the pleasure.