Here's a new idea for some of you. It is not a bad thing for a male submissive to take care of his Domme, even to the point of stepping up and being the one who leads her to bed when she is tired or not feeling well (as one example).
In the way I see it, a male submissive isn't just the guy sitting in the cage or tied to the bed, he is also the guy who cares for his woman. Isn't that at the heart of your submission? Don't you want to be the guy she desires too and looks forward being with rather than just one more thing on her to-do list.
Yes, you know about things like making her a coffee, rubbing her feet, you may have even heard of The Ladies Tea Society but beyond that have you ever considered taking care of her. Making sure she is warm and comfortable when you sit together in front of the TV in the evening. If she catches a cold or comes down with a fever a male submissive should be bringing her some Tylenol, maybe some gingerale and encouraging her to get to bed and sleep.
A male sub should remind her when they are running late. He should take the initiative and get the car started on a cold day. He should make note of groceries and other supplies they need to pick up. He should pick up the dry cleaning, take out the garbage, fold the laundry when he hears the clothes dryer finish up. When he is first home he should have dinner ready rather than spending that time waiting to be fed. Catch the creepy crawlers for her, open the jar of pickles when it's tight and stick up for her if someone is being less than kind.
When you are out in public be a little old fashioned and open doors for her. When eating out get anything she needs such as extra napkins, a coffee sleeve or ask the waitress to bring vinegar for her french fries. If you know she's tired (and you're ok) offer to do the driving. It isn't less submissive to take the wheel when you are choosing to take care of your woman, your Domme.
In a female led relationship I think it is important for the male to keep some of his power. Few real women want a man who has to be micromanaged and comes across as needy/ demanding all the time. I don't think any woman is going to want a guy who ignores all her needs except for the times he wants her to Dom him. If the relationship is female led then her real needs, wants and her time should be important.
I'm not saying it is a one way street. But, chances are she will be more interested in play time when she knows she has a partner who not only helps her but values her too.If she is stressed out with never ending chores and things to do she won't have the energy, interest or inspiration to play. Her time for play will not be something she can look forward to and relax and enjoy. Wouldn't you rather feel valued and desired too? It is a two way street after all.
