Does He Listen to You?

A few things I've discovered about meeting subs online and how to decide if there is a chance they are going to work out as your sub male:

1. If you ask him questions does he make sure to answer them? Does he answer a few and skip a bunch? Or, does he make sure all your questions are answered?
2. Are his emails to you long or short? Does he take time to write at least as much content as you have? Or does he just do the bare minimum? Are you just entertaining him or is he sincere about catching and keeping your interest. 
3. If you say 'no' to him about something (like giving out your phone number for instance) does he take it with good grace and understanding? Or, does he push you about it, demanding you explain yourself beyond the information you choose to offer?
4. Does he talk about more than just BDSM and the things he wants you to do to him/ for him? Do you know if he smokes, what he likes to read, basic things like that? 
5. When you talk about Dominance and submission is he pushy? Does he let you lead the conversation, the topics and decide if you want to talk about play? Or does he push his own kinks and fetishes at each opportunity? 
6. When you tell him something about yourself does he remember it later on? Or is it all not all that important to him? Does he have a real interest in getting to know you and who you are? 
7. Does it seem like he has fallen in love with you too quickly? Is he just telling you what he thinks will work to get him what he wants? All the flattery and promises of love and affection really don't mean a thing when you only know him through email. Note: If he falls in love with you too quickly and too aggressively, not only should you not believe him, but you better be really careful about meeting a guy who could be very possessive and perhaps dangerous. Never let a first meeting/ date be anything more than coffee in a public place. Even if you feel great about the guy and how things went - take that cooling off period. Let yourself listen to those second thoughts you ignored in the heat of the moment. Pace yourself, be safe and arrange that second date without regrets. 

I've tried meeting men online for several years. Always it is a disappointment, most never even get to the point of meeting me for a first coffee and chat face to face. Seldom do they show me that they have what it takes to be a real sub male and a real person in my life. I do want more than a boy slut to do things to. I want someone that I will enjoy being with. There has to be more than BDSM to keep my interest. If I don't have an interest in him (and he in me) then what is the point? I could be getting paid if I'm just going to provide a service.