Another key point in the law of attraction from Domme to sub... being asked "What do you (the Domme) want to do to me (the sub)?
Simple as this looks at first glance it is actually pretty complicated.
Most male subs I meet online have a list of things they are interested in. That is fine.
But... they proceed to tell me what I should do to them, based on what they want. Or they ask me if I will do assorted things to them/ for them, as per their list.
The point they continue to miss is... What do I (the Domme) WANT to do to them (the sub)?
Really boys... your first question (D/s or fetish related) should be about what I want to do, not about what you want done.
Are we clear on that point yet? Somehow I really don't think this will penetrate the fog surrounding most males I meet online.
So I will go on a bit further. If you want to serve a Domme, sincerely. You need to pay attention to what she wants. You need to ask her what she wants. You need to do as she wants. No, this does not mean you do something stupid or dangerous just because she told you to do it. If you have allergies, fears or some other real problem it is your responsibility as the sub to let her know. She can't know you have a dreaded fear of heights, are allergic to chocolate, etc unless you tell her.
Beyond what you can not do for real physical reasons there will be things you would rather not do. Make a list of your deal breakers. This is the opposite of the list of your fetishes. This is a list of things you can not do based on morals, or some other reason beyond the basic physical stuff like allergies. For you crossdressing might be something you would never ever want to do. Be prepared to back up everything on this list with a reason. A few things like not wanting to play with bodily fluids is kind of standard to be on a list such as this. Yet, there are some who really want this type of play so it is a good plan to make sure it is on your do-not list just in case.
After these two lists (physical/ safety limits and moral compass type limits) you are left with a wide field of interests and fetishes which are now free reign, for your Domme to choose from. Not you.
Anything not on your lists is now on the table for her to choose from. Males who begin by telling a Domme what they (the sub) want are trying to top from the bottom. That's the way I see it. You (the sub) do not get to make my choices for me (the Domme).
I will have my own list of things I will not do. I may, or may not, share that list with the sub. I like the aspect of keeping him guessing, wondering what could befall him on any given day.
