Why I like to Switch
Originally posted to Adult BackWash: Friday April 19, 2002
I can be dominating and have that power charge, also I think a switch male is more interesting/ challenging to dominate because there is more to him than the desire to submit. I like knowing there is a give and take of power and I don't have to always be dominant and I am being dominant over a man who is strong and can be dominant also. There is less thrill in dominating someone who needs it, than there is in dominating someone who wants it.
I especially like knowing that I can let go and be taken care of or dominated when that's what I need or want. I like having options to suit my needs of the moment instead of being trapped in one role.
I also think a Switch is someone who has explored more of the philosophy and their own feelings about D/s than others who stick to one role. As a Switch you are often questioned about where you fit in - so it's something you explore and can evolved with as time goes on. I think switching allows more movement and creativity.
I also don't trust a man who says he is Dom or a woman who says she is sub. I think those roles are too easy to fall into. They are already a stereotype. It's much harder to step out of the stereotyped role and be something which can be seen as lesser. People see sub men as weak instead of a man who chooses to please women. People see a female Dom as somebody who is bitchy, maybe cruel instead of a woman who enjoys being more involved in the sexual side of her relationship.
For me dominating does come down to that - being more involved. When I'm in charge I know it's up to me to lead - not wait for him to start something - not needing to see if he is even willing to start something. It's my choice and I can take his feelings into account but I don't have to wait for him to lead or touch me in the right way, etc. Its more fun when its lady's choice.
