Using his Tool
Originally posted to Adult BackWash, my weekly column was Bait and Switch: Saturday June 29, 2002
I have limited experience with condoms. Partly because I don't have a penis, partly because we were never successful at using them and partly because safe sex has never been a problem for me.
I did order a condom from a website, I forget which condom maker it was now. They sent a large sized condom and I had a look at it, in the package. My husband decided I shouldn't actually open the package since he wouldn't be able to use it then. I wish I had secretly opened it and had a look. He always seemed a bit too old fashioned about that stuff. Why shouldn't I have a look at something he expects me to insert into my vagina.
We never did get much use of the condoms we tried. I really do think he was using the wrong size. Why else would they always slip off so easily? But, that isn't something easy to tell a guy who is already self conscious and not all that interested in real sex anyways. I'm at the point where being masturbated by my lover is a turn off now.
But, I am single again and I expect safe sex will become something I need to know more about. Not that I'm clueless. You would have to be living as a hermit not to have absorbed some information about safe sex these days. But, I don't know how to use a condom, what kind of condom works best, is spermicide non-allergenic, etc.
Women have been the ones expected to provide or take responsibility for birth control for way too long. At least all the safe sex is making men take their cock in hand and do something about it too. But, that doesn't mean women are ok to just lie back and leave it to them. Whatever your pleasure, use his tool the right way.
