Would you spy on your lover, husband or significant other? How in depth would you want to get? Watch them picking their nose in the parking lot? Read all their email? Put a tracking device on their car and map everywhere they go? Video tape them when they think they are alone?
It sounds crazy to me. Yet, there are a lot of spams coming through my email advertising spy services and gadgets. Someone must be buying these things. Not me. I think it's just a bit too crazy.
If you have to cling that much it will never work out. People need some time to be private, some secrets and some mystery. Not everyone is a cheater but if you insist on labelling them eventually your wish will come true in one way or another.
Turn it around. What if you were the one being spied on? How would you feel? Some of you might feel turned on, protected, or like you're putting on a show. Others might feel really put out.
Do you really want to share everything, every thought, every action and every idea? Not me. I want some mystery, something to explore and discover and now and then I'd like to be surprised with something new (hopefully good).
I don't want a cheating partner. I also don't want a lap dog. You have to find a balance. You have to learn to give space and take space in return.
Now... I spy with my little eye... something that is... You!
