Cruising around, looking at useless stuff today and I came across the words "vocal restraints" in a personal fetish profile. Awesome! One of those things that makes me step back and sigh with pleasure, just imagining the possibilities of vocal restraints.
Of course I had to search for more of it, find out if the reality holds up to my concept of it. I found some really weird stuff. Beyond anything I'd imagined. Check out the link for China Doll. Pretty... interesting.
I prefer my version. Vocal restraints not being a gag but the use of the voice to control. But, that takes a commanding presence among other things. Maybe the gag version of the vocal restraint is more to the liking of the fast food sort of BDSM. It's easier, for sure.
But, why go for the easy way out?
Why not give your sub a command and expect it to be obeyed? It's what he says he wants, right?
Or does he... does he long for the time you will slip up and he can regain his freedom. Silly man.
The whole attraction of D/s to me is the control, the mind games. I like being in charge, knowing he is liking it too. Of course, he can't make it seem too easy, let me think he is liking it too much. Then I'd have to make it just a bit harder (literally) and a bit more challenging for both of us. Soft and nice has it's place, it can be part of Domming. Just think of soft and nice right before the axe falls. From tender to extreme is pretty effective.
That doesn't mean non-physical restraints need to give way to hard core bondage restraints. It just means I need to crack down and make sure he remembers which of us has the remote control and which is the innocent bystander. Speaking of remote controls... oh never mind, I'll save that for another column.
Soon I will find the little man I've wanted to torment for so long. It will be a lot of fun for both of us, but mostly for me. I have so many ideas along the lines of objectification, domestic discipline, humiliation and vocal restraints now too.
