Is it surprising that a Domme has fantasies where she isn't in charge? I don't think so. We are all one human being, with a balance of things and feelings and beliefs, which make us a whole. If I could find an ideal man he would have a bit of a twisted side and share some of my fantasies, or at least understand - or at the very least take a week long business trip so I can enjoy my fantasies without explaining anything.
