Is unwillingness a turn on for you? Would you admit it? Willing has become like a buzz word in the sex industry/ BDSM community. Just like the 'two consenting adults' thing. But, all those proper willing ideas don't change the fact that unwillingness is still a big turn on. Not just for men either.
Women have rape fantasies and versions of rape fantasies based on being unwilling or unknowing. Women also think of using men. Tormenting them really. I cook up some pretty good ideas along those lines myself. In one case cooking actually is involved.
But, I digress... I'm sure you don't want to hear about my little fantasy...
I'm not sure which I prefer, the one where I'm actually cooking a man or where he just keeps on cooking, doing laundry, windows and so on. In both cases he is not real happy about it. Never fear, I don't actually cook him all the way in the first case. I just like to see him sweat awhile. It's good for his pores, right? But, I can imagine how his voice would turn just a bit squeaky as I begin adding the carrots, potatoes and onions to the big stew pot he is tied up in. "Getting a bit hot in there, dear?" Just imagine how he would feel as he began to wonder if I was just playing after all?
Being a bit evil is kind of fun. But, it's just a little fantasy. Not even one I pull out often. I'm not a chef after all.
There are so many other fantasies that involve a man who isn't exactly willing or who at least, pretends not to be exactly willing. I'd like to have a man I wanted (over some goofball who begs, demands, or expects it) at my mercy. I really do like the fun of tormenting him. Of course, he will expect so little from such a nice wallflower like me. Won't he be surprised?
Anyway, I was thinking of the whole willing thing today. Having a willing partner is being good, obeying the rules and all that stuff. That's why it's important to find a man who can play an unwilling victim, convincingly. I want to believe he really is just a bit scared. I want to enjoy his surprise, uncertainty and struggles as if he really were unwilling.
