Would a woman want to be a succubus? If she did, would it be about the sex or the power and possible destruction?
Some men like to read hard FemDom erotica. They like to read about women abusing men, but sexually of course. Women have rape fantasies, but feel confused and guilty about them. I think the two things are similar.
First of all, know that both are fantasies, not what the people want in reality (whether they know it or not). I think the men don't understand how different the fantasy would be from the reality, but sadly, most women do know. If they have not experienced rape or being molested themselves, they are close to another woman who has. Men, not so much.
Which is the point about the succubus I started writing about. Would women like the power of the succubus? In fantasy or in reality? Is there any woman who would just want sex like a succubus. I don't think so, for some it is a paying job. That says a lot. If you are getting paid for sex it isn't all that great. It's not really your choice. To me it seems more like paid rape than paid sex. But, I hope, it isn't that way in every case, for every sex worker or performer. Maybe some do enjoy it, look forward to it... It isn't for me.
However, I do like the power and destruction of the succubus. Not for the sex but for the domination, the power and the control over the sex and the man. Maybe its more than a power thing. If you have the power then you can't be hurt, in theory. So it is the opposite of the rape fantasy. Though, in the rape fantasy you aren't hurt either because you have found something, about that lack of control, that works for you (as a fantasy).
Long ago, when the Internet was still new and a LOT of men online thought the whole thing was a great sex fest, there were online groups of BDSM people who set out rules based on their own preferences. Being a Switch (a person who was either top or bottom, submissive or dominant, by choice at the time, subject to change) was not well respected as a choice. People thought you just couldn't make up your mind. Likely that was true for some percentage of Switches/ switches (yes, it got that complicated). Not all.
Being a Switch was very much a power thing, and a choice thing. You could be the fantasy succubus and then have the rape fantasy in the privacy of your own bedroom. It was space to explore in and freedom to enjoy control and power without trying to fit into one side or one niche.
Lastly, comes the sad part. When one is in control and feeling so much in control... you have to stop, take a step back and wonder who really is in control, who really has the power? Like the sex worker, not in love, not likely feeling much passion, but getting paid for it. In the end, whether you are top, bottom, rape fantasizer, succubus or Switch - if you don't really enjoy and want to be doing what you are doing - its not sustainable and you aren't really in control. Giving and taking. How much are you giving and how much is being taken from you? Is more being taken than you realize?
Back to that power thing. How much power does the succubus have? When the lights come back on, she's gone.
