I'm not expecting or allowing myself to hope I will meet someone. Well, truthfully, I've always been on the optimistic side so I can't say I'm not allowing myself some small smidgen of hope. I've tried for years and only found liars, cheats and perverts. Mainly, men put themselves and sex first, ahead of everything they say they want. They do not mean what they say. It is very discouraging.
Addendum - I changed it again. Its hard to write a profile for adult sites. It's hard to not sound like a bitch when you really just want to spare yourself having to deal with men who just don't get it. Literally and figuratively. I made a friendlier profile but left off the protection of telling them I don't want dink pics from random men, etc. I don't know why I spent most of my day working on this site and then on FetLife. It was not how I planned to spend the last day of November.
Here is what I wrote (the first draft):
I am not a professional FemDom so skip off if that's what you came for. I know what being a Domme means to me. It's not casual or for sale.
The following profile sounds pretty stern and that isn't who I am. Yes, I am on the bossy side and I do things my own way, etc. But, I like to enjoy life and I have all sorts of interests. I like learning, especially about history and science. I'm a quiet person, an introvert. INTP. Non-smoker. Not a dog person (allergic to animals). I play PC games on Steam. I read a lot - mainly science fiction, horror, classics and non-fiction. I photograph abandoned, ruined and old buildings around Ontario. I'm a visual artist and web publisher/ producer.
I am not looking for someone, though finding someone would be a nice surprise. I've been involved in the BDSM community online and locally for many years so I know how unlikely it is to find someone sincere with more to offer than a list of sex games and a bag of toys.
I am NOT interested in casual sex or playing around. I know most of you think everyone here is for casual sex and playing around but... you're wrong. I am not interested in your sex drive, or photos of you which don't include your face - clothing is not optional. I am not posting smutty photos and I don't want them sent to me by some guy.
Regardless, the following is here to provide information for those who care to read it. I am very unlikely to reply to men who don't follow my rules. I'm a Domme by choice, not because some guy asked me to.
Do not start by telling me how you can serve me. This is personal for me and you don't know what I want until I tell you.
Must be:
Should be:
- male and straight (not bi, bi-curious, or bi in another profile).
- live north of the GTA (that's in Ontario, Canada).
- 55-ish in age (young men are nice but what would I really do with you that wouldn't make me feel like I'm corrupting a minor).
- submissive, with some style or genre. No generic do-me types. Know what you want, really, not just stuff you read on a porn site.
- looking for a real human woman not a blow up doll or a free McDomme. I'm a person, so are you. I hope.
- single, not cheating on someone and thinking that's okay.
I am not keen on sissys and diapers. I would rather have an adult man than someone who feels like a child I have to play pretend with. Do you know how lonely that is? I do. I'm looking for a man to spend time with, not a babysitting job.
I've seen men complain that women get lots of replies, notes, posts, etc while men are lucky to get even one. There is a pretty big reason for that. Men get replies from women who are interested in the person they are writing to. Women read the profiles and consider how they could suit each other. Men, most of you, don't do that. You see your basic criteria, send a post that is little more than ASL (age, sex, location) and blast away. Usually, she spent quite a bit of time writing a profile only to have it ignored, discounted, or not read at all. It's very discouraging for women to read through all of that because it shows you really have no interest in who she is because you don't care. It's a popularity contest no one wins. So stop doing it. If you just want something to screw buy a sex doll. They're still easy to fix with a little glue and some plastic. It doesn't work that way with human beings. If you want to meet a woman, a real person, treat people like human beings, not blow up sex dolls.
